mixology: the 2014 vikings preseason game

Here’s Mixology’s Preseason List, for the Vikings game tonight.

As always, if you’re gonna show up and want a last minute addition to the Mixologist’s list?  All you have to do, is ask the Mixologist, to add your request to the playlist.  And in one of those “what are the bleeping odds!” coincidences in life?

I’m the Mixologist!

You know how to reach me.  If not?  I’m @teamtito15 on Twitter, teamtito15 on Facebook, teamtito15@ Yahoo and Gmail, teamtito15 at "reputable singles site", or you can text me if you got my digits.  

And please – if you’re a really attractive female in need of some sexual healing? 

Text my digits!

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The Mixologist’s Playlist: Preseason (vs Vikings), August 23, 2014.

(Note: all songs listed in alphabetical order, by song title … and when I feel a defense and/or explanation of said song’s inclusion is necessary?  Comments appear after its’ notation.)

* “All My Friends Say” by Luke Bryan.

* “Always On My Mind” by Willie Nelson.

* “Am I The Only One” by Dierks Bentley.

* “And Your Bird Can Sing” by The Beatles (Anthology Version).  Because listening to John and Paul lose it while baked on something, is just that damned hysterical.

* “Angel Eyes” by Love and Theft.  If you’ve never heard this song?  Trust me – you’ll dig it before it’s done playing.

* “Another Brick In The Wall” by Korn. 

* “Are You In” by Incubus.

* “Baba O’Reilly” by The Who.

* “Baby” by Justin Beiber.

* “ Bad” by Michael Jackson.

* “Battlefield” by Jordin Sparks.

* “Beat It” by Michael Jackson.

* “Beautiful Day” by U2.

* “Best Of My Love” by the Emotions.

* “Billie Jean” by Michael Jackson.

* “Borderline” by Madonna.

* “Bottoms Up” by Brantley Gilbert.

* “Bottoms Up” by Trey Songz.  Ooh!  Who says I don’t value diversity and acceptance of all!  Two songs, by different artists, with entirely different sounds, of the same name!  (Pause).  Yeah, I should have included "Ebony and Ivory" in this playlist ...

* “Bye Bye Bye” by NSYNC.  True story – I once closed down the double deck blackjack table at the beautiful – and I use that term as loosely as possible – the lovely Harvey’s Casino, Resort, Hotel and RV Park in beautiful – and good God, do I use that term, as loosely as possible – beautiful Council Bluffs, Nebraska, with?

(Dramatic pause).

The greatness – and sweet merciful Jesus, do I use that term in such a loose way, every 54 year old sex worker is embarrassed by its looseness – the greatness that is Joey Fatone.

* “Celebration” by Kool and the Gang.

* “Cochise” by Audioslave.  For the uninitiated?  This is the song that plays, as the Chiefs run out of the tunnel.

* “Come On Get Higher” by Matt Nathanson.

* “Could You Be Loved” by Bob Marley.  Feel free to bring a dugout; mine’s empty.  Oh, and please – if you bring said dugout, you might have to explain to a few people there, that a dugout is not what the Royals and their opponents sit in, for a few hours every night, when a game is staged across the parking lot.  Just a heads-up warning.

* “Country Girl (Shake It For Me)” by Luke Bryan.

* “Courtesy Of the Red, White and Blue” by Toby Keith.

* “Cruise” by Florida Georgia Line.

* “Dancing on the Ceiling” by Lionel Richie.  This is the victory song.  If the Chiefs win?  The very first thing that happens once I arrive back at the tailgate?  (Pause).  Yeah, true – I pour myself a healthy cocktail, and/or grab a bottle of champagne out of a cooler.  But – but! – the second thing I do?  Is cue this song up on the Mixology List, drop the “did somebody dance on a damned ceiling today!” blast, and spend four minutes fist pumping, to the greatness, that is this song.

(In a completely unrelated development, I might need mental health therapy.)

* “Daydream Believer” by The Monkees.

* “Desperado” by The Eagles (Hell Freezes Over version).

* “DJ Got Us Falling In Love” by Usher.

* “Don’t Leave Me This Way” by Thelma Houston.

* “Don’t Stop ‘Til You Get Enough” by Michael Jackson.

* “Don’t Stop Believing” by Journey.

* “Don’t You (Forget About Me)” by David Cook.

* “Down On The Corner” by Creedence Clearwater Revival.

* “Down With The Sickness” by Disturbed.  Cue the (brett kane voice): Aw!  Shit!  (bow wow wow wow!)

* “Downfall” by TRUST Company.

* “Downtown Train” by Everything But the Girl.  Guaranteed to spark a healthy “Stevo and Chris are right; the “HIMYM” Finale was perfect” debate against anyone who wants to take us on.  Bring your A Plus game; we’re ready for you, Mother worshippers!  #teamtedyrobin

* “Drink In My Hand” by Eric Church”.  If you include “shirt nowhere to be found”?  That’ll  perfectly describe me tomorrow.

* “Easy Lover” by Phil Collins and Phillip Bailey.  Sadly, Mr. Bailey did not perform this song at Starlight, a couple weeks ago.

* “Electric Feel” by MGMT.

* “Every Monday” by Marvelous 3.  Who is ESPN.com college basketball writer Eamonn Brennan’s favorite band of all time.  (And in the interest of full disclosure, not only is Marvelous 3 in my top ten … Mr. Brennan is my favorite college basketball writer.)

* “Everybody Wants To Rule the World” by Tears for Fears.

* “Faded” by soulDecision.

* “Float On” by Modest Mouse.

* “Footloose” by Kenny Loggins.

* “Fresh” by Kool and the Gang.  No word on if Menthol, will show up to support Kool and his gang, tomorrow night.

* “Fuck Her Gently” by Tenacious D.  One of two songs, guaranteed to bring the tailgate down.

* “Gallery” by Mario Vasquez.  Mixologist’s Selected Choice.

* “Get It Like You Like It” by Ben Harper.

* "Get Low” by Lil’ Jon.  I do NOT edit the Mixologist’s Playlist for language.  (Pause)  You’re welcome.

* “Get Off Of My Cloud” by the Rolling Stones.

* “Get Your Shine On” by Florida Georgia Line.

* “Gimme Shelter” by the Rolling Stones.

* “Girl” by Davey Jones.

* “Go All The Way” by the Raspberries.

* “Go Your Own Way” by Fleetwood Mac.

* “Goodbye Yellow Brick Road” by Elton John.

* “Guerrila Radio” by Rage Against the Machine.

* “Happy” by Pharrell Williams.

* “He Stopped Loving Her Today” by George “No Show” Jones.

* “Here’s To The Good Times” by Florida Georgia Line.

* “Hey Jude” by the Beatles.

* “Holiday Road” by Lindsey Buckingham.  Come on, just sing it!  “Holiday Rooooo … oooohhh … ooohhh … ooohhh …. Oooohhhh … oooohhhh … ooohhh … d.  Holiday Rooooo … oooohhhh … ooooohhhh … oooohhhh … oooohhhh …. Oooohhhh … d!”

* “Hotel California” by The Eagles (Hell Freezes Over version). 

* “House Of The Rising Sun” by the Animals.

* “Humpin’ Around” by Bobby Brown.  Really, this song is TWENTY TWO YEARS OLD?!?!?!?!?!

* “Hungry Eyes” by Eric Carmen.

* “I Don’t Remember Last Night” by Sunny Ledford.

* “I Don’t Wanna Go On With You Like That” by Elton John.

* “I Don’t Want This Night to End” by Luke Bryan.

* “I Got a Name” by Jim Croce.  This will ALWAYS be THE Mixologist’s Choice, and if you don’t like it, I don’t care.  I freaking LOVE this song.

* “I Guess That’s Why They Call It The Blues” by Elton John.

* “I Hate Myself For Loving You” by Joan Jett and the Blackhearts.

* “I Know You’re Out There Somewhere” by the Moody Blues. 

* “I Want It That Way” by the Backstreet Boys.

* “I’m Still Standing” by Elton John.  Jesus, how I’d love to shout the lyrics of this song, into The Champ’s face.

* “If You Ain’t Here to Party” by Luke Bryan.

* “In My Head” by Jason Derulo.

* “In My Life” by the Beatles.

* “In The Air Tonight” by Phil Collins.  Come about 6:10pm on Sunday, November 30, 2014?  Any of you who doubt why this song is included without question, in every Mixology list?  You’ll get it.

Trust me – you’ll get it.

#neverforgetoctober71991

* “The Joker” by the Steve Miller Band.

* “Kids” by MGMT.

* “Killer Queen” by Queen.

* “Layla” by Derek and the Dominoes.

* “Layla” by Eric Clapton (Unplugged version).  I will go to my ashes being spread in the west end zone of Arrowhead Stadium laughing at the fact, that The Champ had no idea, there was an original version of this song.  He had no idea, the Unplugged version, was a remake of an original.  You gotta love utter stupidity sometimes.

* “Let It Be” by the Beatles.

* “Let The Music Play” by Shannon.

* “Levon” by Elton John.

* “Lido Shuffle” by Boz Skaggs.

* “Lights of My Hometown” by Brantley Gilbert.

* “Live While We’re Young” by One Direction.

* “Living On The Edge” by Aerosmith.

* “Living In Fast Forward” by Kenny Chesney.

* “Long Cool Woman (In A Black Dress)” by the Hollies.

* “Machine Gun” by The Commodores.

* “Machinehead” by Bush.

* “The Man” by Aloe Blacc.

* “Man In The Mirror” by Michael Jackson.

* “Maneater” by Hall and Oates.

* “The Memory Remains” by Metallica.

* “Mixed Emotions” by the Rolling Stones. 

* “Midnight Train to Georgia” by Gladys Knight and the Pips. 

* “The Morning After” by Maureen McGovern.  I have a great friend and co-worker – Heather – who is 51 years old (aka would have been 8 when the movie came out) – who has never seen “The Poseidon Adventure”.  Say wha?  Not only is it one of my ten favorite movies of all time … say wha?  If you were 8 when “The Poseidon Adventure” came out, and didn’t see it?  Isn’t that like me being 6 and failing to see “ET” in the theater?  (Which is what my 5^th birthday party was, according to my folks baby picture book of me.)  Isn’t that like someone born in 1986, never seeing “Forrest Gump” or “Speed”?  It’s an outrage!

* “Morning Train” by Sheena Easton.

* “Moves Like Jagger” by Maroon 5.

* “Mr Telephone Man” by New Edition.  Mixologist’s Choice for as long as I draw breath.  And what the hell ever became of Ralph Tresvant?

* “The Muppet Show Theme Song”.   If you work with me, you understand why, this is included.  Waldorf!  Statler!  “Why do we always come here? / I guess we’ll never know! / It’s like a kind of torture / To have to see the show!”

* “Never Knew Love Like This Before” by Stephanie Mills.

* “No Alibis” by Eric Clapton.  I’ll let this one go, without significant comment.

* “No Diggity” by Blackstreet.  “Play on, playa.  Play on, playa …”

* “North to Alaska” by Johnny Horton.  This song will play at least once before the tailgate is over, in honor of Russ the Bus Man.

* “Oh, Pretty Woman!” by Roy Orbison. 

* “One Love” by Bob Marley.

* “One Toke Over the Line” by Brewer and Shipley.  My Dad’s favorite song of all time.  And it also contains my brother’s favorite catch phrase – “Sweet Jesus!" – which even my mom has to concede, and allow us to say.  Brewer and Shipley – letting me and my brother get away with salty language since the day we were born!!!

* “Out of Touch” by Hall and Oates.

* “Paint It Black” by the Rolling Stones.

* “Penny Lover” by Lionel Richie.  This will always be the first song that plays on the Mixologist’s Playlist, in honor of Mother Mona.

* “Piano Man” by Colton Dixon.  Yes, I picked Mr. Dixon’s version from “American Idol” three years ago.  I love that it's such a contrast, to the original by Billy Joel.  Deal with it.

* “Pumped Up Kicks” by Foster the People.

* “Regulate” by Nate Dogg and Warren G.  My brother and I can still sing every word of this song, in tune, and accurately … and it’s only been twenty something years, since we forced Dad to listen to it every day taking us to school.  Absolute classic.

* “Rich Girl” by Hall and Oates.

* “Ridin’” by Chamillionaire.  This one’s in memory of “Deadbeat Ex Roommate”.

* “Right Round” by FloRida.

* “Rolling In The Deep” by Adele.

* “Round Here” by Florida Georgia Line.

* “Save Me, San Francisco!” by Train.

* “The Second Time Around” by Shalamar.

* “Short Girl / Long Jacket” by Cake.  This one will play at least once before the tailgate is over, in honor of Chris.

* “Shout!” by The Isley Brothers.  I went with the original, over Otis Day and the Animal House version.  I’m saving that one for November 30^th.  Or September 29^th.  Possibly both.

* “Sinners Like Me” by Eric Church.  Needs no explanation.

* “Smells Like Teen Spirit” by Nirvana.  Needs no explanation.

* “So Close” by Hall and Oates.

* “Some Nights” by Fun.

* “Somebody That I Used To Know” by Gotye.

* “Somewhere Only We Know” by Keane.  This one will get me choked up, if it pops on the playlist.  (To the uninitiated?  This is my favorite song of all time.)

* “Stand” by Rascal Flatts.

* “Stand By Me” by Otis Redding.  My favorite version of the classic.

* “Starlight” by Muse.

* “Start Me Up” by the Rolling Stones.  Hell yes!

* “Sugar, We’re Going Down” by Fall Out Boy.

* “Sunshine On My Shoulders” by Train.  Will make at least two people happy, if it plays while they’re there, at the tailgate.  And one of those two, is me.

* “Super Freak” by Rick James.

* “Sweet Caroline” by Neil Diamond.  (Pause).  Yeah, I’ll sing along to every word.

* “Sympathy For the Devil” by the Rolling Stones.

* “Take Me Home Tonight” by Eduardo Dinero.  “The Perpetual Intern” will get that joke.  

* “Take On Me” by A-Ha.

* “Talladega” by Eric Church.

* “Tattoos On This Town” by Jason Aldean.

* “Tequila Makes Her Clothes Fall Off” by Joe Nichols.  I’m more than willing to buy a bottle, to make this happen, if you happen to be “The Crush”, or a really, really good looking member of the female persuasion.

* “This Is How We Do It” by Montell Jordan.  True story: I left my buddy Bunch’s house on New Year’s Eve 1994, as Nebraska won Dr. Tom his long overdue national championship.  This?  Is the song on cd I listened to, the whole fifteen minute drive home, after that amazing Orange Bowl victory.

* “The Time Of My Life” by David Cook.  Another Chris selection.

* “Time To Pretend” by MGMT.

* “Tipsy” by J-KWON.  “E’ry bitch in this club gettin’ tipsy!”

* “Toes” by The Zac Brown Band.

* “Walk Away Renee” by The Left Banke.  This one's for my mom; it's amongst her two or three favorite songs.  (Should also note, The Beatles influence in this playlist, is all her as well.)

Plus, this is just a really, really, really awesome song, on what the pain of a breakup feels like ... from anyone involved in said breakup's perspective, if the person mattered to you.

* “We Built This City” by Starship.  I don't give a shit that it's the worst pop rock song ever recorded; it gets the job done at a tailgate.

* “Where Everybody Knows Your Name” by Gary Portnoy.  Better known as “the theme song from “Cheers”!”

* “What Is Life” by George Harrison.

* “Why Don’t You and I” by Alex Band and Santana.

* “Word Up!” by Korn.

* “Wouldn’t It Be Nice” by the Beach Boys.

* “Your Wildest Dreams” by The Moody Blues.  In honor of the late, great Greg.

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And finally, the anthem of not just Ryan and Ron and Ray's family, but hell, it's become OUR Tailgate Group's Official Anthem as well:

"the family" funeral part ocho: the final goodbyes

“Someday?  Out of the blue?

In a crowded street, or a deserted square?

I’ll turn and I’ll see you,

As if our love were new –

Someday?  We can start again,

Someday soon …

I still believe.

I still put faith in us.

We had it all,

And watched it slip away.

Where are we now?

Not where we want to be.

Those hot afternoons?

Still follow me.

Someday?  Out of the blue?

Maybe years from now,

Or tomorrow night.

I’ll turn and I’ll see you,

As if we always knew,

Someday?  We would live again,

Someday soon …”

-- “Someday Out Of the Blue” by Sir Elton John.

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(editors note 8/20 9:13pm: part siete is delayed.  I wound up with 71 questions, I'm trying to pare down to 26 ... because Question Twenty Seven, is in this post.  I hope to have it up soon ... but I didn't want to delay this one, at the expense of what should have been a previous one.  I swear to God, it makes sense to me.)

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To The Ex:

I am so damned sorry I failed you.

I should have stood my ground.  I should have kept fighting against Josh, against what I, and so many of your friends, saw him to be … and what, if I am to believe the reports from afar, you’ve finally figured out.

I am sorry, I gave up.  I am sorry, I didn’t keep trying.  You – and everyone reading this – have no idea how much I blame myself, for what has happened to you, and with us.

Please know, when you are ready to seek the help you need, there will be no judgment on my part, or anyone else’s.  We just want “our girl” back.  You have so many people who blindly love you, blindly care about you, blindly support you and just want the best for you.  I wish I could articulate how many times “man, it’s not the same without Katie here” has been said by so many people poolside this summer.

When you’re ready to talk, I’ll meet you anywhere, anytime, anyplace, with no preconditions, with no requirements.  I just want the best for you – now, and then, and always.

But if our “moment” before your wedding is our final goodbye?  Then your conscience should be clear.  Mine never will be, but yours should be.  If that was our last day, our last hurrah?  Then at least we went out acceptably.

You’ll always be my dashboard drummer.  Your little footprints?  Will always be on my window. 

You’ll always be the one, I just can’t forget.

I suppose my final comment would be this:

“And it seems to me,

You lived your life,

Like a candle in the wind.

Never knowing

Who to cling to,

When the rain set in.

And I would have liked

To have loved you,

But I was just a kid.

Your candle?

Burned out long before,

Your legend ever (will) …”

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To The Champ and to The Chica:

(And ultimately, to all of you reading this:)

All I ask of all of you seeing this – and of the two of you – is to simply compare Dusty and Kellie’s words, to their actions, and you decide which is the truth, and which is the lie.

* Dustin claims this was about nothing more than a bowling league team.

So take him at his word.  Assume that is a truthful statement.  What would you expect he and Kellie’s actions to be, if that was the case?

You’d expect him to own his decision.  You’d expect them to still include me, still be friendly towards me, be kind towards me.  You would reasonably expect that the ONLY thing that would change in our relationship, is the lane we bowled on.

What do you believe – Dustin’s words, or Dustin’s actions?

* Kellie claims she does her best, to always do what is morally right.

So take her at her word.  Assume that is a truthful statement.  What would you expect doing what is morally right, to encompass?

You’d assume that when she tells me that I need to talk to Dustin, she’d make Dustin talk to me, right?  You’d assume that she would always tell the truth no matter what, right?  That she’d honor her promises, honor her word, do what she commits to do, correct?  You’d assume that she wouldn’t defend wrong when it occurs, but would condemn it.  You’d assume that she would treat everyone fairly, equally, and decently.

What do you believe – Kellie’s words, or Kellie’s actions?

* They both claim to stand for complete openness and honesty, at all times.

So take them at their word.  Assume that is a truthful statement.  What would you expect being open and honest, would entail?

You’d expect them to, at a barest minimum level, to own every decision and choice they make, no?  To defend it, explain it, account for it?  You’d expect them to never fail to give of themselves, what they demand of others, right?  For example, if they demand I allow them to come over and talk, you’d expect them to agree to talk to me, right?  I mean, openness and honesty requires conversation, does it not?

And you would expect, if they demand honesty, that they’d always tell the truth.  That promises wouldn’t be broken, that lies wouldn’t be told and/or tolerated and/or defended?  That every single action and comment undertaken and made, would be explained, accounted for, and answered for, when an explanation, accounting, or answer is asked for, right?

What do you believe – Dusty and Kellie’s words, or Dusty and Kellie’s actions?

* They both claim to stand for tolerance, inclusion, and acceptance of all.

So take them at their word.  Assume that is a truthful statement.  What would you expect tolerance and inclusion and acceptance to include?

At a barest minimum level, it would mean never intentionally excluding someone, right?  It would mean never intentionally snubbing or leaving someone out, right?  It would mean never blacklisting someone because of who they are friends with, correct?

It would mean treating others with respect, and kindness, and decency at all times, would it not?

What do you believe – Dusty and Kellie’s words, or Dusty and Kellie’s actions?

* They both claim that they have done nothing wrong, and nothing to be explained, accounted for, or defended – let alone, apologized for.

So take them at their word.  Assume that is a truthful statement.  What would you expect above-board transparency to be?

You’d never expect Dusty’s teammate to openly confront him, and tell him he was wrong in everything he did to me, as Cam did in our presence near the end of our final season as leaguemates, right?  You’d be stunned if Kellie’s teammate notes to our faces that “if Dusty had done this to me, I’d have bitch slapped him”, as Ammie did a week before “The Lies of Lew’s” went down, right?  

You would never in a thousand years have leaguemates, teammates, and friends asking out loud why they weren’t invited to any of Kellie’s showers for Miles, let alone long-time friends of all of us asking the same question, right?

Because they’d have been nothing but open and honest, transparent, fair and reasonable, tolerant and accepting, and truthful and kind, every day for the last two years, right?

What do you believe – Dusty and Kellie’s words, or Dusty and Kellie’s actions?

* "The Post" that angered them so much, the one I put up last May, in which I detailed maybe 40% of all they’ve done, using their quotes, their actions, their decisions, to explain this fight from my perspective.

I was told by Dustin – quite angrily, I might add – that that post?  Made Kellie cry.

So take him at his word.  Assume that is a truthful statement.  And ask yourself, why did that post, make Kellie cry?

Did she cry because she was embarrassed at her actions?  (Nope.)  Did she cry because she realized how hateful, how disrespectful, how intolerant, how unkind, how unfriendly, she and her husband had been towards me, and so many of you?  (Nope.)  Did she cry because she was disgusted with herself, and immediately act on those tears by reaching out to me, apologizing to me, attempting to make things right between us?  (Nope.)

Or did she cry, because all of you finally got to see who she really is, and that’s what upset her?  Not the lies she and Dusty spun to you and anyone who would listen, but the truth about this fight, and what utterly repulsive people they have become -- is that what made her cry?  (Bango!)

Again, what do you believe, their words … or their (lack of) actions?

* And for this one, I beg you – I demand of you! – please, do not have ANYTHING capable of being spat up in your mouth, when you read it.

Because Kellie, on the night she invited herself over, demanded I do for her on ten minutes notice what she and her husband have refused every request I’ve made to do for me, looked me in the face, as she was lecturing me on how wrong it is to lie (when the only way she could know I lied to her at Lew’s, was if they lied to me first), and said with the utmost of seriousness, that “Steve?  There are three types of people I will never tolerate in my life: a liar, a thief, or a cheater.”

(Hang on, I failed to take my own advice.  I need to grab a towel real quick to clean up the upchuck mess on the laptop screen …)

(Hang on, I’m still laughing hysterically.  This might take five minutes.)

“There are three types of people I will never tolerate in my life: a liar, a thief, or a cheater.”

So take Kellie at her word.  Assume that … hang on, this is just too fucking funny, to stop laughing over.  (Stevo composing himself …)  OK.  Let’s try this again.

So take Kellie at her word.  Assume that is a truthfu – sorry.  I swear: this might be the last time I lose it hysterically, even thinking for a second of time, there’s a hint of truth to ANY of that statement …

(Stevo once again composing himself …)

OK, one last time.

So take Kellie at her word.  Assume that is a truthful statement.

Do you believe Kellie’s words … or do you look at who she’s married to, and whose child she has given birth to … and lose it, like I have been for the last six minutes -- let alone the last six years they've been together -- at what an utterly ridiculous lie, that statement is?

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The bottom line, readers and readettes, is that there is one thing, they cannot control, and that is the truth.

And the truth is?  All I have ever asked them to do, is what Kellie told me to ask them to do: talk.

So, I ask you, my dear readers, friends, and potential enemies after this post goes up – what do you choose to believe, Dusty and Kellie’s words?  Or Dusty and Kellie’s actions?

Have they owned their decisions and choices, or sought to hurt all of us who dared ask them to act with a maturity level we’d demand of a five year old, and simply accept the consequences and the natural outcomes of their actions?

Have they treated you and I fairly, tolerably, respectfully … or have we been shown nothing but contempt, hatred, intolerance, and exclusion?

Have they spoken kindly of me ... or trashed me and disparaged me every chance they get?

Did they take this fight public first ... or did I?  Which one of us sat silent for 206 days?  (And as they damned well know, even “The Voice of Reason” can confirm, I didn’t say one ill word about them, until after that entire season was over.  And they know he can confirm it, because they asked him to … and he did.)

And more to the point: whose decisions, choices, actions, and comments guaranteed this fight was going to happen, and end as it has ... and which side is the one that made every compromise, every concession, every offer of peace, up to and including letting Dusty and Kellie get away with ALL of it, on THEIR terms, at Lew's, nearly 650 days ago?

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And then, if you're still on the fence?

Ask yourself Question Twenty Seven, left out intentionally from the previous post*:

“If they’ll do this to me, given what they claim I meant to them – if they’ll treat me like they have every day for two plus years, without a shred of guilt, remorse, or regret, let alone disgust?  If they’ll do the things they have to me?

Do you really think they’ll hesitate to do to you, something even worse?”

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(*: still being edited, at the time of this post's original posting..)

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If every word Dusty and Kellie said this was about, and what they stand for, is the truth?

Then this is the most epic, pathetic, embarrassing failure of their lives.

Because it means between the two of them, they are so utterly bankrupt of character and courage, they cannot own a bowling league decision.

Let that sink in readers.  If they are telling the truth, then they are the most gutless chicken shit cowards?  To ever draw breath.  Because it means that between them, they have a pair so small, they cannot get out in front of, and own, a bowling league decision!

Again -- what do you believe: their words ... or their actions?  Because in this case, Dusty and Kellie?  You might want to own your actions, over your words, because good God above, even my (nearly) four year old nieces know, that when you leave the room?  You let everyone else know, you're walking out the door.  Do you want all of us to believe, you are so childish, so immature, so pathetically pussified, that you can't manage to do even that?  That, Champ y Chica, is what you demand your supporters accept as Gospel -- that this isn't a fight about right and wrong, but rather, this occurred because you're so wimpy, you can't own a bowling league decision!  If you're telling the truth?  Then that IS the truth!  THAT?  Is what you WANT us to believe?

Good God, Kellie.  You may be a lot of things, but I have NEVER viewed you, as a coward.

In order for your words, and comments, and stated intentions to be the truth?  You have to be more gutless than Wimpy.  Who'd happily pay you on Tuesday, for a hamburger today.  And today is Wednesday, last time I checked.

THAT?  Is what you want to be remembered for?

Jesus God above, for once in your life, will you open your eyes and see reality?

Either you are the most gutless chicken shit coward to ever draw breath ... or you're the biggest liar who cannot acknowledge being a liar, to ever draw breath.

If what you have stated is the truth?

You're one or the other.

I'll be damned if I will tolerate either, in MY life, at this point, or ever for that matter.

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But if every action of Dusty and Kellie is the truth?

Then this is the most unforgivable thing, anyone has ever done to me.

And considering Dusty’s lies and theft destroyed my financial existence (to say nothing of his, and Clark's, and (possibly) his folks, and (probably) The Chica, and (definitely) anyone else he scammed into Stubbs) for the better part of a year?  That’s saying something.

Because I could forgive the lies and theft at Stubbs.  At least I could understand that.

But Dustin?  You turning on me, and attempting to turn our friends – and my friends – against me, for what you caused my life to become for a spell?

That?  I cannot forgive.  Not absent one helluva humble apology, and one (or more) credible conversations in which you own this failure of yours, you own these mistakes of yours, and you take the necessary first steps to rebuild what you have intentionally destroyed.

Because either your words are the truth?

Or your actions are.

And anyone with an IQ above that of a corpse at this point, knows that it’s actions, not words, that reveal what the truth, really is.

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I choose to begin the close with this:

I do not believe in coincidence.

I wanted this post to go up on August 20th, for a very specific reason.

A very specific, tragic, (arguably) life-altering reason, for me.

Ten years ago today, one of my three or four best friends growing up, passed away.  Today, he would have turned 36.  He died in one car vehicular accident on his birthday – Friday, August 20, 2004.  Only those of us who knew him best, know it was no accident.

I went to his grave tonight, and I shed a few tears.  And by a few, I mean I was “that guy”, who lost it uncontrollably for no particular reason, on a 98 degree day at a tombstone, in central Shawnee, pushing 6pm, on a random Wednesday in late August.

I chose the overall theme I did, for this series of posts (“Goodbye Yellow Brick Road”), because it just perfectly fits.  Because I’ve never known anyone in my life who reminds me more of James, than Dusty did.

They never met.  Or I should say, if they ever did, I never knew about it. 

They almost did; James’ death prevented a meeting by a few days.  But they never met as far as I know.  If they had?  I think they’d have been amongst the best of friends … because God above, were they the same person.

And again, from the "I don't believe in coincidence" file -- while Dusty and I were friends before James' passing, I'd argue our friendship truly grew from "yeah, decent tailgating buddy, I'd have a beer with him after work" to "amongst the best of friends" the day after James' funeral and burial -- at the Projekt Revolution concert.

God gives ... and God takes away.

And now, God has taken away again.

For the first time in my life, I question how He can ever replace.

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From the outside, each of them had many friends of mine questioning what the fuck I ever saw in either of them, worth the pain they tended to cause.  One friend in particular, who quite frankly has never truly been able to stand either James or Dusty -- and in many regards, ever truly grasp me, for what it's worth, although he gets me more, than most do.

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And from the outside, I get it.  We all know people that are friends -- or more -- that we look at and think "what the hell?"  Hell, my brother jokes routinely that "I'm proof looks don't matter to scoring (the hottest girl in the room)!"  

Because viewing this from the inside?  

I just feel sorry.  And embarrassed.  Not just for what "The Family" has become, but for all of you who missed out, on what greatness was -- and you will never convince me, this friendship was anything, less than the greatest any of us that were a part of it, will ever experience.

Even in hindsight? 

I wouldn’t have missed it?

For the world.

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And that’s what I’ll miss the most of all about “The Family”, is the “inside baseball” part of what we were.  The things that only we’d get, only we’d find funny, only mattered to us.

There’ll never be another “boasheao” reveal at a random "happy hour" at her folks house, after a ten hour drive to get there.  There’ll never be another “There!  It’s done!  Are you (bleeping!) happy now!” moment of frustration over a grill.  There’ll never be another tailgate, another concert, another shoot the sh*t on the deck afternoon with a case of Miller Lite and a tobacco-like substance. 

There’s never be another … anything.

I’ll never meet Lil’ Champ, or any other Lil’ Champs or Chicas to come.  You all have no idea how much that pains me.  I will never meet Miles.  That seemed unthinkable three years ago; that seems perfectly reasonable today.

I’ll never experience the “big moments” in life ever again with any of them, and they never will with me.  Our last “moment” will be The Ex’s wedding to Josh, a moment that if The Champ, the Chica, and Stevo are being honest, none of us wanted to be at, because none of us wanted it to happen.

Only we were there, because The Ex asked us to be, and whatever some of our objections were (I refuse to speak for Dusty and Kellie on this one … although I’m guessing, they actually agree with me for once)?  If our friend asked us to be there for a big moment in life?  We were there, even if it broke us ... in some way, shape or form.

So let me bring this close, to an, uuh, "close", by noting the moment, the foundation of "The Family", saw the cracks first appear ... and it's been all rubble and ruin from there.

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Going to your hometown reception, Kellie, broke me and Katie financially.  We simply didn’t have the money to go.  I gave up my actual full season ticket to the Chiefs for 2011, to make it happen; I shifted my plan to a partial season, and gambled I’d manage to work my way into a seat the rest of the time.  

That?  Is what you meant to me.  

Katie also gave stuff up to be there; as she can confirm, we literally spent a day on The Deck mapping out which of us would pay for what for the other, to make that trip happen.  Hell, we spent part of that day combing through our emails for free giveaway "sign up and get gift card" emails, to make things work out.

That?  Is what you meant to us.

That?  Is what you meant to me.

That?  Is what you, Chica, spent every day that week bitching at us about, that you had to go three minutes out of your way, to pick us up at the cheaper hotel we could afford, instead of the one closer to your folks house, that we couldn’t. 

(Once again, and defending Dusty at this point is like spending a night in sobriety, but once again, Dusty didn't say a word.  I suspect, because just like with last Easter Sunday, he knew.  So there's your "inside baseball" moment for why I love the guy -- and James before him -- so damned much: he may be the most arrogant, selfish prick in the room ... but he had your back, if you were a true friend.

You all have no idea, how much it pains me to realize, Dusty doesn't have anyone's back nowadays, other than his own.  Twelve years, flushed down the proverbial crapper, because a twelve minute conversation, is asking too much of him, to give of himself.  Again -- believe his words, or believe his actions.  You cannot believe both.)

That, Chica?  Is what you and The Champ never got, never grasped, in any of this.

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Friendship?  Isn’t about money.  It isn’t about status.  It isn’t about where you lay your head down at night, and it sure as all hell isn’t about how you get to and from where you desire to be.

It isn’t about what you can get OUT of someone.

Friendship?  Is about what someone desires, craves, demands, to GIVE to you, with no questions asked -- because THEY?  Matter more to you, than YOU do.

That?  Is the truth you cannot deny.

And it is a truth, you no longer are capable, of embracing in a credible manner.

And that?  Is why we're probably gone-zo now, for us, probably forever.

Because if you two can’t see what friendship is about nearing the midpoint of your lives?

Then you’ll never get, what friendship is about.

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“Maybe you’ll get a replacement!

There’s plenty like me to be found.

Mongrels, who ain’t got a penny;

Sniffing for tidbits like you,

On the ground …

So goodbye yellow brick road!

Where the dogs of society howl.

You can’t plant me in your penthouse!

I’m going back to my plough.

Back to the howlin’ old owl in the woods;

Huntin’ the horny back toad.

Oh, I finally decided?  My future lies?

Beyond the yellow brick

Road …”

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No, you won’t.

And no, there aren’t.

And if Dusty?  If Kellie?  If Katie?  If you’re being honest?

You know I’m telling the truth, in those two statements.

Because those two statements?

Tell the truth, of how I feel about each of you.

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This?  Is what we had:

And that?  Is what we all apparently have decided, had no value, no meaning, no worth to any of us.

From this point forward, you all can explain why you are incapable of having a simple conversation, that would save a friendship, that all of our friends envied, and everyone who knows us, admired.

Because I'll be damned, if I'm ok with it.

And from this point forward?  You all can explain, what you got out of this, worth having.  You can explain to our friends what the hell you got out of this, that was greater than what you lost.

I truly hope, that whatever the rest of you got from destroying this relationship – and so many other freidnships and relationships, of people who cared for you, and liked you, and considered you as friends, until they saw how you treated me – I truly hope, you think whatever value, gain, worth, and meaning you got from all this, was worth what it cost you.

Because it sure as fuck wasn't worth it, to me ...

"the family" funeral part seis: two days in december

“Yesterday?

You came to lift me up;

As light as straw,

And brittle as a bird.

Today?  I weigh less

Than a shadow on the wall;

Just one more whisper,

Of a voice unheard.

Tomorrow?

Leave the windows open.

As fear grows?

Please hold me in your arms.

Won’t you help me, if you can?

To shake this anger!

I need your gentle hand,

To keep me calm.

Because I never thought I’d lose;

I only thought I’d win!

I never dreamed I’d fear,

This fire beneath my skin …

Things we never said?

Come together.

The hidden truth?

No longer haunting me.

Tonight?  We touched on

The things that were never spoken –

That kind of understanding?

Sets me free.

Because I never thought I’d lose;

I only thought I’d win!

I never dreamed I’d fear,

This fire beneath my skin …”

-- “Last Song” by Elton John.

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Part Sies: Two Days in December.

With this post?  This series turns personal.  I am sure these will not be posts anyone cares to read, and that's cool.  I am not ending this "my way" for you.  I'm doing it for me.

The final three pieces in this fond farewell, are my take on all that’s happened, my viewpoint on this fight, the questions all this raises in me, and my defense, and explanation, for why I have chosen to handle things as I have, since the second day in December, profiled in this post.

If this is as selfish, arrogant, and inconsiderate as posts come?

I’m simply matching The Champ and The Chica’s level, of selfishness, arrogance, and inconsideration.

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Sunday, December 2, 2012 dawned as arguably the darkest day in Chiefs history.  Less than twenty four hours earlier, Chiefs LB Jovan Belcher had shot his fiancé, the mother of his child, nine times in their bed, then killed himself at Arrowhead as the police closed in, in front of Chiefs GM Scott Pioli, Chiefs head coach Romeo Crennel (affectionately known on this site as “Coach Baffoon” – a man so incompetent, he can’t even spell buffoon right!), and Chiefs LB coach / defensive coordinator Gary Gibbs.

There was definitely a weird vibe at Arrowhead that day.  The normal party-like atmosphere at the backed-up gates was non-existent.  Even once the gates opened and the tailgating began, there wasn’t the usual jovial mood, at least in Lot G. 

This would ultimately wind up being the last tailgate of my group that Dustin and Kellie would attend.  It’s probably fitting – the last tailgate is overshadowed by a murder / suicide. 

And if you think that’s one helluva coincidence?

Wait until we get to the second day in December.

(I’m telling you people, you give me six more weeks, I will convince you there is NO SUCH THING as coincidence.)

The recap of the day can be read by clicking here.  (For the highly sensitive and/or squeamish, I get into my personal battles with depression and suicidal thoughts, in the last quarter of the post.  Just a FYI for the weak of stomach and/or of heart.) 

What didn’t stand out to me, was the “coincidence” of the song that came on as DJ and Kellie arrived, although I did note it in the recap, and again – there is no such thing as coincidence.

What stood out to me, is that for one brief moment of time, I wasn’t angry anymore.  For 3 ½ months at that point, the rage had been building.  It is my opinion that for 3 ½ straight months, I was shown nothing but intolerance, hatred, and disrespect by the two of them.  That I was treated in a manner by them they wouldn’t tolerate being shown them for two seconds, and I had to endure it every day for 3 ½ months, without a shred of guilt, regret, remorse, or simple embarrassment from Dustin and Kellie.  115 bleeping days of indefensible conduct – conduct so indefensible, so offensive to even their friends, that as Kellie’s friend and teammate noted to me on December 5^th after bowling: “if Dustin had done (all) this to me?  I’d have bitch slapped him.”  Their other teammates and friends there that night, simply nodded in agreement, at that comment.

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I made the decision that Sunday, to let them get away with it.

Because Sunday, December 2^nd, 2012, provided the answer to the question I’d been asking for nearly 115 days.  What mattered more to me: the friends* I thought Dustin and Kellie were … or the way those two friends had treated me, over those 115 days.

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(*: I will grant you -- especially in hindsight -- that the idea that either of the two of them were a “friend” at that point, was laugh-out-loud preposterous … but when you’re in the midst of a fight with people you care about, you tend to lose semblance and focus at times.)

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I spent the next week bouncing questions off of various friends, and ultimately decided, someone had to cave, if this part of The Family could be saved.  And if Dustin and/or Kellie didn’t have the moral conscience a six year old possesses, to own the consequences of their choices?

Then it had to be me, once again, giving them what they demanded, at the expense of what I wanted.

Which I offered to do about a week later, when I noted that it had been four months since either side had invited the other to spend time in their presence “just because”, and I suggested we try to set aside a Friday evening for a happy hour, to try to find our version of détente.

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Wednesday, December 12^th, they accepted my offer.  And did more than accept – to their credit, they seemed genuinely stunned that it had been four months since our last funday “just because”, and they went out of their way to not just accept my offer, but to insist I pick the bar where this soiree was going to go down. 

I picked Quinton’s in Waldo, and we agreed to meet up around 6pm on Friday, December 14^th.

At about noon on that Friday, I got a text from The Chica asking if we were still on for that night.  I replied that we were.  She said they’d see me when I got there.

From that moment on?

It’s been one gigantic Chernobyl, of a relationship.

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Friday, December 14, 2012, is a day no American should ever forget.  (Again: I am the one here, who does not believe in coincidence.)

Because it is the day that SandyHook happened.  And quite frankly, it is President Obama’s finest hour.  I have never been as proud to have that man as my leader, than I was on that Sunday night the 16^th, in his speech to the nation in the aftermath of that national tragedy. 

I spent the ride from work to Waldo, listening to Dana and Parks (as I usually do), only unlike most days, I wasn't laughing, and neither were they.  I was crying on that Metro ride, as were the hosts of the show, and I know I'm not the only person, who was shedding tears that day, at yet another senseless tragedy that was 100% preventable, against the greatest generation still to come.

But that’s not why I’ll ultimately remember Friday, December 14^th, 2012, as a sad, sad day.

I’ll remember it as a sad, sad day, because it’s the day I realized beyond the shadow of any doubt, that Dustin and Kellie were no longer the Dustin and Kellie I once knew, loved, and (in Kellie’s case) respected.  (Sorry Champ, but I’ve never respected you.  And if you’re being fair, that feeling’s mutual.  Our friendship was never based on respect for either side.)

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So let me address December 14^th, 2012, by noting this: no one can deny I gave Dustin and Kellie every single thing they demanded.  And yes, they drove the “negotiation”.  I offered nothing but unconditional surrender that night – up to and including letting them change the bar on me as I was on my way to Waldo, because their dinner plans had fallen through, so somehow, that meant Lew’s was now their preferred place to talk.

In fairness to them, they never demanded we meet at Lew’s.  And in fairness to them, they did half-assedly offer to meet me across the street at Quinton’s when they were done eating.

But in fairness to me?  That’s a dick move, and everybody knows it.  They knew I would go along with Lew’s … and if they didn’t realize what yet another bitch slap of disrespect that move was to me?  Then they’re either so ignorant they can’t see reality, or so arrogant they don’t care.  And sadly, I don’t know what the proper answer is, ignorance or arrogance, at this point.

I picked Quinton’s for a reason – three of them actually – and in case anyone ever doubts I don’t think three moves ahead in dealing with a problem or a person that’s a problem, this night proves I do.  I picked Quinton’s because (a) they have the cheapest happy hour prices in Waldo, (b) their happy hour runs the longest in Waldo, and (c) I was testing The Champ and The Chica, to see if they could even manage at this point to set their selfishness aside, to at least give me the bar of my choice, for my “unconditional surrender” to them. 

(For the record, I left the bowling alley two nights earlier, telling my teammates that “you watch – they’ll find a way to not have this happen at Quinton’s”.  As always, I can not only think three moves ahead; I can see at least two ahead.)

I arrived at Lew’s, knowing nothing good was going to come from this night.  But I did do what I didn’t want to do, once I got the text changing the location, and that was show up.

Because I knew, what I was dealing with, at that point.  And it’s two people, noone should ever have a desire, to have to deal with.  Two people who place their arrogance, selfishness, egos and greed, above those they claim to care about and/or love.  

Who gives a shit about you?  They’re all that matter, to them.

This will be one of the 27 questions to come in the next post, but I’ll ask it early: “what the hell did your dinner plan changes, have to do with our meeting up at Quinton’s?  Why not just eat your dinner, then meet me at Quinton’s as scheduled, without sending the text guaranteed to change the venue?  Why couldn’t you two even give me my damned favorite bar, for the fucking conversation?”

(Pause).  Yeah, the next two posts might need to have a “I’m over 18, and I consent to what I am about to read” disclaimer entryway, attached to them.

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The conversation itself was pleasant enough.  Sadly, I actually think they were being somewhat genuine in what they demanded out of me.  

Well, of course they were -- I was giving them every fucking thing they'd demanded for 115 days.  And all they were offering in return?

We'll get to those lies, momentarily.

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Specifically, they made the following demands on me:

* We were not going to deal with what had happened.  They had to be allowed to get away with all of it, without a shred of accountability or consequence.  I said fine.

* I would be provided with no answers, no explanations, for all they had done.  I just had to accept it.  I said great.

* There would be no credible apologies for all that had happened.  Again, they had to be allowed to get away with treating me for 115 days in a manner so offensive, the phrase “bitch slap” was used, to describe how their allies in this fight, would have reacted had they done this to them.  I said spectacular.

* We had to start over, as if nothing had happened.  I said wonderful.

* We had to treat each other, as if nothing had happened.  These 115 days become the “elephant in the room” that nobody acknowledges is there.  I said sweet, let’s do this.

* And as part of that starting over, and creating one helluva gigantic elephant, we all had to agree, that once we walked out the front door of Lew’s that night, that NONE of us, for ANY reason, could EVER again bring up ANYTHING that had happened, in the previous 115 days.  It was all dead, buried, and off limits, no matter what we thought of it.

To this point, I actually did whole-heartedly agree.  Because it’s the only time that night, I actually thought Dustin and Kellie were telling the truth, were actually saying something they intended to do.

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But just to be sure, I decided to insure myself against the fraud and deception I knew was occurring.  Once Dustin made that demand, and I agreed to it (as did Kellie), then I started telling some half-truths and outright lies that were just believable enough, you’d question if they actually were true. 

That's the key point to note, that The Champ and The Chica conveniently ask you to ignore.  

I didn't lie to them, BEFORE the demand, that nothing that was said or done prior to walking out the door, was made of me.

And actually, that's not fair.

The Champ knew what that demand meant.

It's why he told The Chica, to not do what she did, on the Easter Sunday seventeen months ago, that sealed the downfall of this friendship, of this "family".

Because Dusty knew, I'd trapped them.  Dusty knew, the only way they'd ever know I lied to them?

Was if everything they demanded I agree to, was a lie to begin with.

But hey -- they stand for openness and honesty at all times.

The hypocrisy of the two of them stinks so much, I can smell it 30 miles away, from lovely Yecker Avenue.

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So let me acknowledge the obvious:

Did I lie to them after that demand was made?  Hell yes I did!  

Because – and this is what The Chica cannot seem to comprehend – if NONE of us can EVER again mention ANYTHING that happened prior to our walking out the door that night?

They’d never know I lied to them.

Because they couldn’t ask, they couldn’t confirm.  They had to let it go.

Even 12 SoCo’s on the rocks* in?  

I’m still the smartest person in the room, when it’s me, The Champ, and The Chica in said room.

Go figure – three weeks later, The Chica proved herself to be a liar (which, in fairness, I already knew she was; just wait until we get to the Twenty Seven Questions I’d Like a (Bleeping!) Answer To post), by dredging up the half-truths and outright lies I told her that night, while out celebrating my birthday.

Let that sink in – she broke our “deal”, that they wrote every piece of, while out celebrating my birthday.

Talk about bitch slapping someone!

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(*: "The Kid" and "boasheao" can confirm: I was POUNDING the SoCo on the rocks, that night.  Yet another reason I wanted Quinton's -- I knew how much I was going to have to drink, to swallow and choke down, giving them all they demanded.)

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In fairness to The Champ and The Chica, they did give me certain promises, concessions, for agreeing to cave to all their demands.

Specifically, they promised three specific things.

1. I’d never again be left out of post-bowling fun.  I still want to punch Dustin in the balls for what he did on Halloween 2012, when he and Kellie intentionally left me behind.  And they both intentionally left me out of the invite list for most of the last season.  

So be it – but if you don’t want me around, at least have the balls to say it to my face.

They promised I’d never again be left out.

I haven’t been invited to join them since mid-February 2013.

2. They swore we’d never again go four months without a Funday “just because”.  Specifically, they swore they’d never go that long, without extending an invite to me.

Every invitation to spend time in their presence for anything other than post-bowling since December 31, 2011?

Has come from me.

Save for Kellie’s demand to come over and talk, on ten minutes notice, on Easter Sunday 2013.  Funny – I ask them to talk, I’m literally told to go fuck myself*.  

She demands to come over and talk on a holiday?  I offer to buy the beer for the conversation.

You tell me who’s to blame for this.  Because I’m fucking done, pretending for even a moment of time, that any of this is my fault.  It’s time to hold the lying hypocrites accountable, for who they are, and what they have done.

3. Again – they swore none of us would ever again raise, what had happened, in any way, anywhere, anytime, anyplace.  And then they did.

Kellie, here’s another of the Twenty Seven Questions I Want a (Bleeping!) Answer To: "do you consider a broken promise to be a lie, or a failure of character? 

Or both?"

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(*: this is coming up in the next post ... although indirectly, via Question Twenty Seven.)

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The truest sign Lew’s killed off what was left of this friendship: those of you who know me even reasonably well, know my car hasn’t worked right in a couple years, and I don’t even bother at this point – I just rely on mass transit, and the kindness of friends, to get to and from where I desire to be.

(Again, I don’t believe in coincidence.  I have to think that God spared me from a few DUI’s the last couple years, given all I’ve had to deal with, out of not just The Family, but with real life.  I guarantee you, I'd have had a couple DUI's last October, if I'd been driving back and forth from the hospital every night.)

When we walked out the door that night, The Champ and The Chica were headed next to Power and Light. 

(Stunner: I wasn't invited.  So let me once again state: I am so fucking glad to know this "night of friendship" you went overboard to convince all our friends was genuine and sincere?  

Was pigeon-holed between your dinner plans, and party plans.)  

The “friendship” move, would have been to offer me a ride home.  It would have been, at most, a six, seven minute detour off The Watkins to downtown. 

Instead?  They hung a U-turn to flag down a cab going the other direction.

A five minute ride home, was asking too much of them.  That was demanding too much of them.

Dustin?  Kellie?  Every time you’ve ever taken me anywhere?  All three times I've ever asked?

Have I ever once failed to pay you?  Have I ever once failed to compensate you?

If you’re being honest?  You know the answer is “no”, to all of those questions.

Then again, if you were capable of being honest?

I wouldn’t have the anger, and the rage, and the disgust, the contempt, the hurt, the outrage, and the (at times) irrational hatred I have for you two, at this point.

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I’m sorry that this is such a “Stevo’s a selfish ass who can’t get over the loss of a couple of friends” post … but sometimes?  I am a selfish ass.  And I didn’t want to lose these two friends.

Only two of these posts remaining: 

* The Twenty Seven Questions I Want Some (Bleeping!) Answers To … and in the interest of fairness, at least four of the twenty seven, I know the answer to; I’d just love for the person(s) asked the question, to be honest and admit the answer(s).

Especially Question Twenty Seven, which is the key to this whole fight, and is a question The Champ can never afford the answer, to be revealed to.

* And The Final Goodbye, where I will explain why I have handled things as I have since Lew’s, and why I’m done trying to save a friendship, The Champ and The Chica not only have no interest in saving, but they’ve set out every day for two years, to destroy.

Which means that once again, what Dusty and Kellie demand?  They get.  And what I want?  I sacrifice.

And when it comes to The Ex?  I guess it’s time to finally deal with a few things that we’ve conveniently ignored for half a decade, and finally allow me to state, for the record, why I feel about her as I do.  (Hint: she's the one dissolved friend in this debacle, I'm willing to blindly forgive.)

(dave matthews band voice) Funny, the way it is, if you think about it …